Wild at Heart

I was reading in the book “Wild at Heart” and felt compelled to write some thoughts.

This book is subtitled: discovering the secret of a man’s soul. These are the author’s ideas. You may disagree, but so far I think i agree with alot of his points.

He poses 3 things that a man truly desires. I think these are me

1-            A BATTLE TO FIGHT FOR

                We like competition. We like the struggle.  We like danger. We like engaging in activities that will frighten our mothers.  We grow up with toy guns. We play tackle football. We want the promotion at work.  I personally do triathlons. I want to beat out everyone. And when I am beat, I congratulate the winner but I want to out train him for the next race. Life is dull without the battle.

2-            AN ADVENTURE TO LIVE

                We need wilderness.  We need to explore. We need to disappear for a few hours sometimes and go somewhere we have never been before. The author makes it clear that this isn’t to be confused with “machoman” but a more authentic masculinity.  We need a test, a challenge. We want to see if we have what it really takes.

3-            A BEAUTY TO RESCUE

                Romeo had his Juliet. King Arthur had his Guinevere.  There is nothing more inspiring to a man than a beautiful woman. True beauty in a woman does not simply imply her looks (although that is very important to us too)  It is all the goodness in her.  We have a need to be the hero of the girl.  It is not enough to have a battle to fight, but to have someone to fight the battle for.  

Compare this to the 3 true desires of a woman that he lists.  The Feminine Heart.

1-            EVERY WOMAN YEARNS TO BE FOUGHT FOR

                She was to be longed for. She wants to be noticed.  She wants to be desired and pursued. She wants the man to make her a priority. She wants to be cherished and know that she is the one and only of his heart. She delights in seeing him make the efforts to be with her or to connect with her.

2-            EVERY WOMAN WANTS AN ADVENTURE TO SHARE

                Yes, they want to be fought for, but they want to be a part of the adventure. That’s why women will follow their man through a long graduate school program.  That’s why women will get up early to pack him a lunch and give him a kiss before his big presentation at work that day that he worked tirelessly to prepare for.  That’s why the woman wants to help him in his struggles when he lets her know how he’s feeling.

3-            EVERY WOMEN WANTS TO HAVE A BEAUTY TO UNVEIL

                She wants to be delighted in.  She wants to feel beautiful and special. She wants to captivate the man.  It is not the desire of a woman to be tough, independent, and efficient, although a strong woman will do so if she has to (like how Maurice speaks of the pioneer woman).  She wants to wear the cute outfit and receive some attention.  This is not insecurity. And personally, a little insecurity in a woman is kinda attractive bc it allows the man to be her hero.

Addiction destroys all these desires in me.  Lust causes me to not fight battles. I let the battles beat me. My only adventure is how much can I get without getting caught.  There is no one beauty but hundreds that don’t even know who I am. There is no fight for a women bc it takes no effort to click the mouse. Lust is the ultimate counterfeit of all that is true in us.

                Women  DO NOT like the lies, being left out of the fight, or not being fought for. They want the man to go to meetings and be honest and get the help he needs.  I read it in the posts, they cheer for their man when he fights this battle in the right way with her in huddle.